The things we do are never gonna change

I've been thinking a lot lately about what defines me as a person. I've been doing this for several reasons which I won't get into here, mainly because even I don't understand them fully. But here is a list of what I think defines all people.

_What we do (for a living): Simple, everyone has a job, whether its being a student, an office bitch, a computer guy, or anything really. And these things that we do for a living partially define who we are in some way. Now, I know that a person who is a cashier isn't really defined by that, but somehow they are. And it's important if they are a cashier at Abercrombie and Fitch or at Kroger's. Again I can't quite say why, but it is a small comment on the person that they are. Obviously a person who is a teacher, or works in a factory, or any of the million different careers out there is more completely defined by that career than most people who are still in school. But either way, what we do for a living is important.

_What we do (for fun): "Some people drink, some people don't, some people smoke a fat one and some don't, some people do, some people don't." I don't think I have to say any more than that. Everybody gets it.

_What we say: People have to express themselves; humans are emotional creatures (see: women/ men watching football) and they have to shout out their feelings to anyone who will listen. This is what defines most people I think. When I meet new people I don't really care what they do (at first) or what they look like (unless they are ugly HAHAHA) or what religion they believe in, it matters what they say to me. I'll have more to say on this subject later.

_What we believe (non-religious): Does a person believe in themselves? That our President is doing a good job? That Radiohead is the greatest band on the planet? That "In the Aeroplane over the Sea" is the greatest album of all time? These things are important and they are often the things that people talk about. So when I said that people are mostly defined by what they say what I really meant was that they are defined by what they believe.

I think that's it. Looks aren't terribly important because the above four things can overshadow looks. Religious beliefs aren't terribly important because if I don't really have any, why should I care if someone else does? Personality is a combination of the above four things. What else is there? Anyone?

I suppose there is something to be said for what we want. But often that changes everyday so it's hard to say that this defines you as a person. I suppose that we have long term goals in life but for me those fall under beliefs because long term goals often coincide with what you believe is the best way to live your life. (i.e. - get married, have kids...that kind of stuff)

Like I said above I've been thinking a lot lately about what defines me as a person. I've always thought of myself as a good person ('good' can mean whatever you want it to in this context) but I have had to change a lot of things about the person that I was over the past few months and I thought it would be beneficial to make sure that the person I am now is the person that I want to be. If I'm capable of being that person.

And I guess I've been thinking about my future a lot. I want to be happy for the rest of my life with both my career and with the person that I am (and...you know, getting married). And sometimes that means not being happy right now. But it's worth it. Well, I have to believe that it is worth it.

Todd

_I'm a terribly sarcastic person and often I say things I don't mean. This has become such a large part of my personality that I have become probably more defined by what I don't say than what I do. Since what I do say is often silly and meaningless to the person who is listening. But if you listen long enough you might find something of worth. And only if I want you to find it.